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As much as we’d like to believe that we’re rational human beings, we can all too easily mislead ourselves. Self-deception lurks in denials, double-mindedness, rationalizations, cover-ups/cover stories, elaborate and almost convincing justifications, excuses, attributions of blame and evasions of responsibility - it is the process that encourages us to justify our false and invalid beliefs.
Let’s get real, painfully real…are you a self-deceiver? Shaking and moving, ducking and dodging like a self-deceiver? You know, avoiding those that know who you really are by preferring the company of those that will play your game of deception and not expose you to yourself? Trying to appear better than we are. To appear more honest than we’ve been. To appear more heroic than we have been. To appear more friendly than we acted. To appear to be more intelligent or clever than we are.
It takes a lot of courage to answer this question. Some people might even reply to it confidently saying that they can never deceive themselves while in fact they are only trying to cover their big lies. Contrary to common beliefs happiness can’t be found but it’s earned after you solve the problems that are bothering you. Self-deception is not a solution to the problems you face but it’s just a method that buries these problems deep into your subconscious mind without solving them.
If you are deceiving yourself, it’s time to be brave enough and to face the lies you created.
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