The lesson at the ending of a great love can be the most difficult to understand; we enter this world wide open and ready for anything, believing that no one is going to hurt us deliberately and we fail to understand how special and fleeting this belief actually is. At 21 you live in the nostalgia; untouched by pain, you are ready to love anyone that will have you and that can offer love back. As adults with a bit more life experience, we realize that sometimes we simply love the wrong people…for too long.

In love, which involves our happiness and many of our most precious experiences, there is a great deal to lose. We put our trust in people who are undeserving; the people that are closest to us have the potential to hurt us the most because we expect love from them. We love the wrong people sometimes, we put our trust in people who would throw it away in a second while we covet what we believe is special. Recognize that some are unable to demonstrate proper love to others (even you); love is taught and there are many in our world were not fortunate to learn how to love. Not being able to give love properly doesn’t mean that the person doesn’t care about you, but does it mean that it’s okay for this person to continue hurting you? Absolutely not, let it go.

There is a freedom that comes along with letting the hurt from the past go. Keep in mind that no one is perfect; make a decision to forgive those who hurt you and those who despitefully used you, even those who may have failed at loving you. For your own peace, love them anyway.

Love Your Hair,

Jane